Families
Say what usually goes unsaid
Parents, grown children, grandparents: each person maps what they hold dear, and you finally see it side by side.
There has never been anything like this.
Free to join a group, $3 once to start one, no subscription, No AI, your data remains only yours to share
Each person names what matters to them, and how deeply. Valence draws the living network between you: what you share, and where you beautifully differ.
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See what the people closest to you actually value.
Explore a sample family See it in motion ↓
explore 1,029 values, six categories of connection.
Who it's for
Any group of people who matter to each other
Friends and couples
Have the real conversation
See where you align and where you differ, without anyone having to go first.
Teams
Work from what is real
Delegate, onboard and decide with everyone's actual values in view.
Care and counseling
Share on your own terms
Clients share their values with a counselor or peer specialist for a set time. Every view is logged where the client can see it.
Why we built it
Most of us have never said it out loud
Most of us have never told the people closest to us what we actually value — not really. We assume. We guess. We find out too late.
Valence changes that. Each person in your group names their values — honesty, creativity, belonging, faith, adventure — and rates how deeply each one matters. The result is a living, rotating network of connection: what you share, how strongly, and where you beautifully differ.
It's for families who want to understand each other. Friend groups who've never had this conversation. Teams who want to build something that actually reflects who they are.
Because knowing what matters to the people around you changes everything.
What changes
Why values matter
Delegate with confidence
When a team shares a visible values map, you can assign work to people whose values align with the task — and trust them to run with it.
Cultivate empathy
Seeing someone else's values laid out beside your own makes it easier to understand their choices, even when they differ from yours.
Anticipate friction
Misalignments surface early. Build proactive systems and agreements before a mismatch turns into a conflict.
Navigate conflict
When tension arises, your shared values map is a neutral starting point — a way to find common ground and remember what you're both trying to protect.
Onboard new members
New to a team, family, or friend group? Joining a Valence group gives you instant, honest insight into the community you're entering.
Make better decisions together
Hard choices are easier when everyone can see which values are in tension — and choose a path that honors what matters most to the group.
Four steps
How it works
Choose your values
Browse 1,029 personal values across six categories — relational, character, spiritual, vitality, stability, and growth. Select up to 50 that resonate most.
Rate how deeply each matters
Slide each value from 0 to 100 — between its antithesis and its fullest expression. Not all values are equal — the intensity is what makes the map personal and honest.
Invite your group
Share a code with your family, team, or friends. Everyone fills out their own values, and the web grows as each person joins. In each group, you decide whether others see your full profile and intensities or only which values you hold.
Explore the living network
A 3D-rotating graph that can change over time reveals what you share, how strongly, and where you beautifully differ. Semantic resonance surfaces hidden connections between related values across different people.
Getting started
Three ways in
Valence started with families and friend groups. It also works between a person and the professional walking alongside them — on the person's terms.
For Clients
Fill in your values once. If a counselor, peer specialist or facilitator asks to see them, you decide whether, and for how long — 30, 90, 180 or 365 days — and you can end it any time. Sign in with a code sent to your email or phone; every view is logged where you can see it.
For ClientsFor Facilitators & Clinics
Invite a client by email or text, or let them scan your QR code. Once they approve, read their values as a one-page report, or see all your consented clients together in a private values web. Access is by clinic invitation.
For FacilitatorsFor Families & Friends
Start a group for a one-time $3, then invite your family or friends — send the invite text by email or message, or let them scan a QR code. Everyone you invite joins free and fills in their own values; together you see what you share and where you differ.
Start a groupPricing
Pay $3 once
One person starts the group. Everyone else joins free.
- No subscription, ever
- Everyone you invite joins free
- Fill in your values once; they travel with you to every group
Questions
Frequently asked questions
What is Valence?
Valence is a shared values mapping tool. Each person in your group selects and rates their personal values from a library of 1,029 options across six categories. The result is a live 3D network showing what your group shares, how deeply, and where you meaningfully differ.
How much does Valence cost?
One person creates the group for a one-time $3 payment — forever, no subscription. Everyone else joins free. Your values profile travels with you across every group you join.
Who is Valence for?
Valence is for families who want to understand each other better, friend groups ready for a real conversation, couples exploring compatibility, and teams who want their culture to reflect who they actually are.
Who can see my values?
Only the people in the groups you join. In each group you choose whether others see your full profile with intensities, or only which values you hold. If you share with a counselor or facilitator, you approve it, you set how long it lasts, you can end it at any time, and every view is logged where you can see it. Valence does not sell your data.
Does Valence work on a phone?
Yes. Choosing your values, the group web and the care portals all work on phones and tablets. The web is easier to explore on a larger screen, and every group also has a List view that shows the same information as a table.
Do I need to fill out my values every time I join a new group?
No. You select and rate your values once. They travel with you automatically into every Valence group you join.
How does the values network work?
Each member selects up to 50 values and rates each one from 0–100 on a slider between the value and its antithesis. Valence builds a 3D force-directed graph where every value is a node and connections show which values are shared. Semantic resonance analysis also surfaces invisible connections between related-but-different values across members.
What kinds of values can I choose from?
Valence includes 1,029 values across six categories: Relational (how you connect), Character (who you are), Spiritual (what transcends), Vitality (what makes you alive), Stability (what grounds you), and Growth (what pulls you forward). Each value is paired with its antithesis, so you can express nuance in how you hold it.
Start with your own values
Choose the values that are yours. Bring your people in when you're ready.