Valence — Your values, wherever you are.

Valence — Your values, wherever you are.

Most of us have never told the people closest to us what we actually value — not really. We assume. We guess. We find out too late.

Valence changes that. Each person in your group names their values — honesty, creativity, belonging, faith, adventure — and rates how deeply each one matters. The result is a living, rotating network of connection: what you share, how strongly, and where you beautifully differ.

It's for families who want to understand each other. Friend groups who've never had this conversation. Teams who want to build something that actually reflects who they are.

One person starts the group for $3 — forever, no subscription. Everyone else joins free. Your values travel with you across every group you're part of. Fill them out once. Carry them everywhere.

Because knowing what matters to the people around you changes everything.

Valence values network — a rotating 3D graph showing shared and distinct values across group members

Why Values Matter

Delegate with confidence

When a team shares a visible values map, you can assign work to people whose values align with the task — and trust them to run with it.

Cultivate empathy

Seeing someone else's values laid out beside your own makes it easier to understand their choices, even when they differ from yours.

Anticipate friction

Misalignments surface early. Build proactive systems and agreements before a mismatch turns into a conflict.

Navigate conflict

When tension arises, your shared values map is a neutral starting point — a way to find common ground and remember what you're both trying to protect.

Onboard new members

New to a team, family, or friend group? Joining a Valence group gives you instant, honest insight into the people you're entering.

Make better decisions together

Hard choices are easier when everyone can see which values are in tension — and choose a path that honors what matters most to the group.

How It Works

  1. 01

    Choose your values

    Browse 1,029 personal values across six categories — relational, character, spiritual, vitality, stability, and growth. Select up to 50 that resonate most.

  2. 02

    Rate how deeply each matters

    Slide each value from 0 to 100 — between its antithesis and its fullest expression. Not all values are equal — the intensity is what makes the map personal and honest.

  3. 03

    Invite your group

    Share a code with your family, team, or friends. Everyone fills out their own values, and the web grows as each person joins. In each group, you decide whether others see your full profile and intensities or only which values you hold.

  4. 04

    Explore the living network

    A 3D rotating graph reveals what you share, how strongly, and where you beautifully differ. Semantic resonance surfaces hidden connections between related values across different people.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is Valence?
Valence is a shared values mapping tool. Each person in your group selects and rates their personal values from a library of 1,029 options across six categories. The result is a live 3D network showing what your group shares, how deeply, and where you meaningfully differ.
How much does Valence cost?
One person creates the group for a one-time $3 payment — forever, no subscription. Everyone else joins free. Your values profile travels with you across every group you join.
Who is Valence for?
Valence is for families who want to understand each other better, friend groups ready for a real conversation, couples exploring compatibility, and teams who want their culture to reflect who they actually are.
Do I need to fill out my values every time I join a new group?
No. You select and rate your values once. They travel with you automatically into every Valence group you join.
How does the values network work?
Each member selects up to 50 values and rates each one from 0–100 on a slider between the value and its antithesis. Valence builds a 3D force-directed graph where every value is a node and connections show which values are shared. Semantic resonance analysis also surfaces invisible connections between related-but-different values across members.
What kinds of values can I choose from?
Valence includes 1,029 values across six categories: Relational (how you connect), Character (who you are), Spiritual (what transcends), Vitality (what makes you alive), Stability (what grounds you), and Growth (what pulls you forward). Each value is paired with its antithesis, so you can express nuance in how you hold it.
Your values, wherever you are.
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